Self- discipline is the ability to control yourself and to make yourself work hard or behave in a particular way without needing anyone else to tell you what to do. It is about creating new habits of thought, action, and speech toward improving oneself and to reach goals. Is it real? Of course, it is and I bet you do it every day. A lot of people think they are not disciplined enough to change habits, make hard workouts, manage uncomfortable situations or do work. The secret is in goals. If you have a real goal, you have to be disciplined to reach it.
People often confuse discipline with routine on the journey towards their goals. Routine is what we allow ourselves to fall into, discipline is what we dedicate ourselves to.
A difference between self-discipline and routine.
Self-discipline appears in various forms, such as patience, discipline, resilience, preparing before acting, completing what you begin to do, and having the ability to follow your own decisions and strategies, facing discomfort, challenges or obstacles.
Self-discipline also means self-control, the ability to avoid unhealthy excess of anything that could lead to negative consequences.
One of the main characteristics of self-discipline is the ability to refuse instant and immediate gratification and pleasure, in favor of some greater gain or more satisfying results, even if this requires effort and time.
Discipline keeps us focused in our own lane, improving ourselves upon each iteration
Routine is the comfort zone, the rationalizing of our current circumstances. Discipline, however, are the stairs we climb, the action we continuously do in private that gets us to our goals.
Routine makes us believe that what we do now is necessary to the cause, when in fact isn’t. That it’s okay to put things off until the last minute, to watch another episode, or follow what everyone else does. Until the moment comes when it’s too late to take action on what actually is necessary.
Self-discipline and Me
There is one secret I have! I have been always the great procrastinator ever 😀 I was preparing all the reports, homework, tests at the last minute in a high school. And I still do it, but now I can understand that it is not about me, it is about the work I don´t like to do. I don´t feel comfortable to spend time on work where I don´t see the benefits. Let me bring you some examples.
My Work Life
In my work life, I work as a People Operations Specialist. I love my job, I like to motivate people and take care of them, but I am not sure that this will be my future. There are some tasks that I physically don´t want to do, I consider them not interesting, boring and useless. As I realize that it is a part of my current job, I go and do it… but after 100 times asking me when it would be done. This is routine, this is the thing that I have to do, but don´t want to. I already know what is waiting for me there. Working for someone is too predictable and all your work becomes a routine and doesn´t bring you happiness anymore one day.
My Private Life
In my private life, I go to the gym 5 days per week, write my blog posts, spend all evenings on preparing content for a blog, Instagram, Facebook, preparing food. On weekends I plan my next week, make plans for a month, quarter and year. I spend 30 minutes reading or studying every evening. I can skip my social life for moving towards my goals. I know what I want to reach and where I want to go.
Discipline knows that there is a time and place. There is a time to play, and a time for getting things done.
I know that I want a bikini body and I do everything to lift weight is a gym for 5 days per week, not less, but 5. I prepare food and put them in boxes every evening, as I realize that it is 80% of the success of my workouts and health. I want to get enough knowledge to create my small business, so I buy new courses and get new certificates. If I do not dedicate enough time to it, I will never get the body or the life I want to get.
I never crave. If I want a burger or sweets, I just eat 1 burger or a few candies. I don´t feel the smell of french fries and don´t see the point of eating the whole chocolate. I disciplined my body and mind well, to feel amazing without unnecessary food. For some people, it sounds like a routine, for me it is self-discipline, a tool that helps me reach my goals and build my future.
How To Become Disciplined
People with a higher degree of self-control spend less time arguing whether to indulge in behaviors that are detrimental to their health and are able to make positive decisions more easily. They don’t let impulses or feelings dictate their choices. Instead, they make level-headed decisions. As a result, they tend to feel more satisfied with their lives.
There are things you can do to learn self-discipline and gain the willpower to live a happier life.
Know Your Weaknesses
We all have weaknesses. Whether they’re snacks such as potato chips ice-cream, or technology such as social media or the latest addictive game app.
Acknowledge your imperfections, whatever they may be. Too often people either try to pretend their vulnerabilities don’t exist. Own up to your flaws. You can’t overcome them until you do.
Set Clear Goals And Have An Execution Plan.
If you hope to achieve self-discipline, you must have a clear vision of what you hope to accomplish. You must also have an understanding of what success means to you. After all, if you don’t know where you are going, it’s easy to lose your way or get sidetracked.
Like the saying goes, “out of sight, out of mind.” It may sound stupid, but this can be very powerful advice. By simply removing your biggest seduces from your environment, you will greatly improve your self-discipline.
If you want to eat healthier, don’t buy junk food. If you want to improve your productivity at work, turn off notifications. If you want to improve your body image, do sports. The fewer distractions you have, the more focused you will be on accomplishing your goals. Set yourself up for success by ditching bad influences.
Discipline is the greatest obstacle in preventing most people from achieving the levels of success they desire
Create New Habits By Keeping It Simple.
Acquiring self-discipline and working to make a new habit can feel desperate at first. To avoid feeling scared, keep it simple. Break your goal into small, doable steps. Instead of trying to change everything at once, focus on doing one thing consistently and master self-discipline with that goal in mind.
If you’re trying to get in shape, start by working out 10 or 15 minutes a day. If you’re trying to achieve better sleep habits, start by going to bed 15 minutes earlier each night. If you want to eat healthier, start by prepping lunch the night before to take with you in the morning. Take baby steps.
Eat Often And Healthy.
The feeling of being hangry- that angry, annoyed, irritated sensation you get when you’re hungry – is real and can have a substantial impact on willpower. Research has proven that low blood sugar often weakens a person’s resolve, making you grumpy and pessimistic. When you’re hungry, your ability to concentrate suffers and your brain doesn’t function as well.
Give Yourself A Backup Plan.
Psychologists use a technique to boost willpower called “implementation intention.” That’s when you give yourself a plan to deal with a potentially difficult situation you know you will likely face. For example, imagine that you’re working on eating healthier, but you’re on your way to a party where food will be served.
Before you go, tell yourself that instead of diving into a plate of cheese and cupcakes, you will drink a glass of water or eat a bit at home in advance. Going in with a plan will help give you the mindset and the self-control necessary for the situation.
Give yourself something to be excited about by planning a reward when you achieve your goals. Everybody needs to have something to look forward to gives you the motivation to succeed.
Anticipation is powerful. It gives you something to obsess over and focus on, so you’re not only thinking of what you are trying to change. And when you achieve your goal, find a new goal and a new reward to keep yourself moving forward.
Forgive Yourself And Move Forward.
Even with all of our best intentions and perfect plans, we sometimes fail. It happens. You will have ups and downs, great successes and dismal failures. The key is to keep moving forward.
Don’t let yourself get wrapped up in guilt, anger or frustration, because these emotions will only drag you further down and stop the future progress. Learn from your missteps and forgive yourself. Then get your head back in the game and refocus on your goals.
Build Your Self-Discipline.
We aren’t born with self-discipline- it’s a learned behavior. And just like any other skill you want to master, it requires daily practice and repetition. Just like going to the gym, willpower and self-discipline take a lot of work. The effort and focus that self-discipline requires can be draining.
Many people can´t stop binging, can´t achieve their goals because they don´t have them. They can´t discipline themselves to move towards the plan, because it is hard and unknown for them. It is easier to fall into a routine as it is an easier and familiar way. But you have been to this already!
I love to see the result of my work, it matters for my future goals and path. I have no idea, what is waiting for me there in the future. I don´t know what will happen to my blog, or if there is any result of my workouts. But I am so happy so far, that my present and my future are in my hands.
Don´t be afraid to risk, and don´t be afraid of not doing the work you don’t want to do. Instead of this, create your own routine and self-discipline that will lead you to the moment of pleasure and happiness and help you to build the best future you deserved. 💖